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Living Well With MBC > Talking With Others
Whether you have had a recurrence, or this is your first diagnosis of metastatic breast cancer (MBC), sharing the news with family and friends can be difficult.
It’s important to remember that telling others about your diagnosis is a personal choice. There’s no one right time or way to do it. Who you tell, what and how much you share, and when you share it, are all up to you.
Some people may feel more comfortable talking openly about their diagnosis, while others choose to tell only the closest people in their lives. The conversations you have will be different depending on who you’re talking to, but remember that you’re in control of the conversation.
Think about how you felt when you first learned you have MBC. You may have felt sad, angry, scared, shocked, or confused. Your family and friends will probably have many of the same emotions. It is important to allow them to express these feelings.
Before telling others about your diagnosis, think about the who, what, and when’s of your communication. Mapping these things out in advance can make each step feel more doable.
Here are some tips for talking with the important people in your life about your MBC diagnosis.
Your spouse or partner will likely be the first person you tell or talk with about your diagnosis.
Share most of the facts about your cancer diagnosis and treatment plan. Details can include the name of the cancer and the basics of your treatment plan. Let them know you will always tell them what is happening. Choose a quiet place to talk where you won’t be interrupted. Allow enough time for your teen to understand the information and ask questions.
If you have adult children, your relationship with them may change. You may:
After you share your MBC diagnosis, you may find yourself overwhelmed with calls and visits from family and friends who want to check in on you. If so, you may want to:
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