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Living Well With MBC > Finding Support

Finding Support

We all need help and support from those around us. This can be especially true when you’re living with MBC. Not only are you managing your disease and your treatment, but you’re also managing your day-to-day life.

Types of support

Support can come in many forms. It can be:

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Remember that your support needs may change. The type and amount of support you need at any one time will depend on the situation at the time.

Finding the best person to help

The key to asking for help is to match the help you need to the person who can best provide it. Each person has his or her own strengths. Some people might be easy to talk with and can be good sources of emotional support. Other people might be better at practical things, such as picking up your groceries.

Step 1: Take a moment to think about the people you know who can help. Write their names on a list.
Step 2: Think about how to match each person to your needs. Next to each name, write what each person can offer. For example, if you know someone who’s a good listener, ask them to give you emotional support by going for a walk. If you know someone has a car and is available during the day, ask them to give you practical support by driving you to a doctor visit.
Step 3: Once you have a list of people you know and what they can offer, you can match your support needs to the person who can help you best.
Step 4: Begin asking for help.

Asking for help

Once you figure out the type of support you need, you then need to ask people to help you. For many people, that’s the hardest part. But remember—people don’t know how to support you if you don’t ask! Sometimes people don’t feel comfortable asking for help. They may think asking for help shows that they’re weak. Maybe they don’t want to feel like a burden to others. The reality is that asking for help shows real strength, and other people usually respond well when they’re asked to help. In fact, people often want to be able to be useful.

Support groups

Many people find it helpful to talk and share experiences with other people living with the same condition. Although everyone’s experience is unique, talking with someone who has shared a similar experience can provide real comfort—and even make you feel less alone.1a

If you’re interested in talking with other people like you, ask your doctor or nurse about support services available in your area. You can also check out these support networks:

ABC Global Alliance
An organization with a mission to improve and extend the lives of people living with advanced breast cancer worldwide and to fight for a cure.

Reach to Recovery International (RRI)
An organization that works to improve the quality of life of people affected by breast cancer, including families.

Ask your healthcare team about support services available in your area.

Where to next? Learn about caregiver support >

REFERENCE

  1. National Cancer Institute. Cancer support groups. About Cancer. https://www.cancer.gov/about- cancer/coping/adjusting-to-cancer/support-groups. Accessed September 23, 2019.